A Tale of Two Golf Courses

Hello. Yesterday I played at a well-manicured golf course in 3 hours and 50 minutes. Today I played at a course that had just been aerated in 5 hours. Other than the weather being perfect on both days, the rounds were as different as can be.
One was public, the other private. One was busy, the other quiet. One had guys talking on cellphones, the other had golfers with proper etiquette. One was tough to get a tee time on, the other you could walk right onto and play.
What surprised me is the private club had the issues, and the public club had no issues.
Why then should you pay a membership fee to follow guys talking on cellphones and walking like turtles, giving you plenty of time to look at a course destroyed by an aeration machine when you can go to a public course and play in ideal conditions for a green fee?
What makes things worse is the staff reaction when you tell them a group was 5 hours. Nothing. No threat to reduce their playing priviledges. No talking to them about cellphones on the golf course. Zippo. Zilch. Zero.
Why do we put up with it? I dunno. Next year I won't.

Regards,
Steve